Tuesday Tip: One day at a time (and a glass of wine!)October 9th, 2012 | Posted by in motherhood | parenthood | parenting | Tips and Quips | triplets | working moms
It’s hard to believe it’s already October. Summer is over, school is in full swing and the busiest month of the year is upon us. Why is October the busiest month of the year? Well, four of our five children were born in October. And it’s our anniversary. And then, just when you think it’s over, there’s Halloween! All of these things require thoughtfulness and planning above and beyond the already challenging task of juggling an active family of seven and a full-time job.
Oh, and just to spice things up a bit, this October, we’re MOVING… which means that in addition to everything else, there is packing and cleaning and phone calls and planning to add to my daily routine. Lest I should forget, there is also a 3-day conference in Chicago that will take me away from that routine just two days before our move. Are you stressed out yet? I sure am!
As I look at the calendar, I am reminded that our triplets turn four on Wednesday (tomorrow!) and our 10th Anniversary is on Friday. The triplets are in pretty good shape; there is no party planned (yet!) but there are gifts to be wrapped and a cake to be baked. My husband, on the other hand, is not so lucky; there is a card to be written but thus far, no gifts to be had. Which leads me to the point.
As I look at the calendar, I am completely overwhelmed. Completely and utterly overwhelmed. How will I get it all done?! There aren’t enough hours in the day! So, to avoid a total mental meltdown (my family and friends might say that a partial meltdown is already progress), I have decided to take it just one day at a time and so far, it’s working pretty well. Take a look at last weekend as an example…
Our daughter turned six on Saturday so, we made cupcakes Friday night and Saturday truly was “all about her” – she had her first big party, complete with dancing and goodie bags. She had her first sleepover, complete with popcorn and a movie. And we went to bed that night delighted that our only little lady had “the best birthday ever.”
On Sunday, we were up at the crack of dawn, lugging out our wares for our neighborhood’s multi-family tag sale. We set up toys, books, housewares and the relics of our baby days on the curb, displaying it just so to maximize the appeal for would-be buyers. Then the rain started. So we lugged it all on the porch. Then the hours passed. And no one came. So finally, we loaded our gently used items and memorabilia into the minivan… and had a big glass of wine.
The moral of the story? Take it one day at a time. If you’d asked me last Friday how I was going to bake cupcakes, wrap gifts, throw a birthday party, have a slumber party and organize a yard sale over the weekend, I would have told you that I had no clue, that it was too overwhelming to even consider! But now it’s Tuesday and despite the rain, our missions were accomplished and we somehow pulled it all off. One day at a time. That’s really the only way.
So, when I look at the month of October on the calendar, there is no denying that it is daunting. But, we made it through the first nine days and will surely survive the next 22 – birthdays, anniversary, work, move and all! Before I know it, it will be November. Before I know it, my three year olds will be four, my husband and I will have celebrated a decade together and our family will be in a new house. And then I’ll be wondering how to juggle unpacking and settling us in, planning our oldest son’s 8th birthday and preparing for the holidays. When I start to feel overwhelmed (that’s assuming I ever stop!), I think I’ll reread this and remind myself: one day at a time. Everything is possible if you take it just one day at a time. And have that occasional glass of wine!