The people I work with often marvel that when I travel for business, my husband isn’t completely overrun by our children when he gets home from work. They can’t help but wonder how anyone could manage the mayhem of five kids at the witching hour — that charming time from roughly 5 or 6 until 7 or 8 when stomachs rumble, tempers flare and exhaustion ensues. While it’s not easy, it can be done –even with five kids eight and under. Even when you’re “home alone.” How?
- Have a plan and stick to it. Know what’s for dinner before you walk in the door. In fact, you would ideally know what’s for dinner before you walked out of the door in the morning; that way, you can have much of it prepped and, if the sitter can simply pop it in the oven, that’s all the better! Tonight I was home alone with all five kids and have to admit, I was the worst offender as it relates to the rumbling belly, short temper and overall exhaustion. What saved the day? Knowing that dinner was as easy as warming up left-over pork chops, microwaving some rice and serving up some pepper sticks and carrots. Was it gourmet? No. But it did the trick. It went down in a jiffy and we all made it ’til Tuesday without falling back on mac & cheese or chicken nuggets. Yay us!
- Have a routine and stick to it. In our house, it’s a quick dash from dinner to pjs. The quicker they hustle out of their clothes and into their pajamas, the more time we have for reading and snuggling, which is a favorite part of everyone’s day. Here’s our routine: eat dinner; kids clear their plates; kids with clean plates get dessert; after dessert, kids put on pajamas, put dirty clothes in hamper, brush teeth, pee, read books, pee again and then it’s lights out. Typically by 8:00. Is our routine flawless? Absolutely not! But, everyone knows what is expected of them and, we all are motivated by the reward of a few extra minutes snuggled up with heads on shoulders and feet entwined as stories are read and tales of the day are shared — which, thankfully are part of the routine!
- Put the kids to work. See bullet #2. They clear the table. They put the dirty laundry where it goes. And yes, I nag them. A lot. Too much some might say. But, eventually they get it – a few plates will get broken and clean clothes might end up in the hamper but, it’s a small price to pay for a bunch of kids who pitch in, understand their roles and responsibilities and, perhaps most importantly, take a few things off of your list!
Is it a perfect system? Nope. But is there anything about parenting — or for that matter, children — that’s perfect? I don’t think so. I think we all just do the best we can each and every day. A plan helps. A routine helps. Having kids help helps. When all is said and done, I just hope mine remember the extra moments we spent snuggling more than those angry rants when I first walk in the door from work! See? I told you. Far from perfect. But, a-ok. And that’s good enough!